There is a show on TV called Intervention. For those who don’t know it basically consists of following around a person who is addicted to something, learning how they got that way, and then attempting to get them into treatment by the end of the show. It’s one of those shows that can be both heartwarming and disturbing at the same time. I used to enjoy watching this show but since my wife and I are expecting our first child shortly, I can’t bring myself to watch another episode.
One of the interesting aspects of the show is learning how the person got to this horrible point in their life. The reasons can vary greatly but almost all of them share one common trait, a horrible childhood. Whether it be a parent that doesn’t love them enough(or too much), parents divorcing, feeling like they cannot get their parents approval, etc, etc. Now when I watch the show all I can see are lists of things I need to either do or not do in order to prevent my child from ending up like this. It went from an interesting drama to a horror show in just a couple of months.
So now I find myself examining my childhood to see what it was my parents did that allowed me to come out somewhat normal. I didn’t have a “perfect” childhood (who does?) but I had what I needed and I knew my parents loved & supported me. Is it that simple? Make sure your kid knows that you love and support them? Make sure you give them what they need but not everything they want? Getting ready to become a dad is scary enough without being reminded that any screw up you make could mess up the kid for the rest of their life.
In summation I am aware that there isn’t a formula or routine that one can follow in order to make sure they don’t screw up their child for life. Or is there? 🙂
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