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Rumors Of My Death…..

Hey All,

Just wanted to drop in and let you know why I haven posted in nearly 2 weeks…

Little man has arrived and with him has come the total destruction of my free time.  My usual routine of waking up early and knocking out a couple of posts has been replaced with cleaning diapers and preparing formula.  So just wanted to let you all know I am still alive and hopefully sometime soon I will be able to develop a new writing routine!

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Learning To Be Vulnerable

As my wife and I get closer to the birth of our first child I can’t shake this feeling of pure excitement & terror.  We are given the ability to love people with all our heart but the more we love them the harder it is when we lose them.  Those of you who have followed me for awhile know that I lost my mother and sister to an auto accident & my father recently to health problems.  Due to this I will admit that for every burst of excitement that runs through my body another burst of fear shoots through my head.  🙂

I can lay next to my wife and feel my son rumbling around in her stomach and it brings a smile to my face.  I know this little guy has the potential to go from a fragile little baby, into a rambunctious young boy, to a headstrong teenager, and finally into a man.  I also know the harsh truth of the world, we are not promised anything.  Just as quickly as he is given to me he can be taken away.  I know that no matter what I do I will not be able to protect him from the world.

I know this fear is something that comes to all new parents regardless of what has happened in their past.  I know this fear is just as big as the love I currently have for this little person I have only glimpsed in grainy video.  I will do as all of us do, I will love and I will do everything in my power to protect my loved ones.

As I sit here typing I have a smile on my face and I’m convinced every butterfly in the world is currently contained in my stomach.  For those of you who have followed me I thank you.  This blog started as a way to keep my butt motivated in writing, and has evolved into also helping me fight through the issues that life has thrown my way.  Reading your comments and following your own journeys has provided me with more joy then you know.  Knowing that you all are going to be with me as I take the next step in my life brings me more comfort then it probably should  :-p       Thanks

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The Daddy Chronicles: The Books

The Daddy Chronicles will follow my misadventures of learning how to be a father.  My wife is due on March 4th, the preparation is under way….

Something I am really looking forward to is reading to my child.  I can remember having dozens upon dozens of children’s books as a kid & even before I could read I would flip through & drool on the pages as I admired the pictures.  I have already begun searching for the perfect books for my future little one.

The Poky Little Puppy

How can you not like the Poky Little Puppy?!?  It has everything you need drama, suspense, & a great happy ending.  This is one I can remember reading as a kid & I love the old school illustrations.

Brown Bear, Brown Bear, What Do You See

Not only is this a beautiful book but it’s fun to read.  This will probably be the first book I read to the little one.  Its catchy and brings back some good memories.

The Ugly Duckling

Classic Hans Christian Anderson story.  Great moral.  Nuff said

The Monster At The End Of This Book

The book that obliterated the 4th wall.  This blew my mind as a kid and I still have fond memories of it to this day.  If this book doesn’t make a kid want to read NOTHING will.

I’m still searching & adding to my collection, any other stories you all suggest or have fond memories of?

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Intervention Makes Me Question Daddyhood

There is a show on TV called Intervention.  For those who don’t know it basically consists of following around a person who is addicted to something, learning how they got that way, and then attempting to get them into treatment by the end of the show.  It’s one of those shows that can be both heartwarming and disturbing at  the same time.  I used to enjoy watching this show but since my wife and I are expecting our first child shortly, I can’t bring myself to watch another episode.

One of the interesting aspects of the show is learning how the person got to this horrible point in their life.  The reasons can vary greatly but almost all of them share one common trait, a horrible childhood.  Whether it be a parent that doesn’t love them enough(or too much), parents divorcing, feeling like they cannot get their parents approval, etc, etc.  Now when I watch the show all I can see are lists of things I need to either do or not do in order to prevent my child from ending up like this.  It went from an interesting drama to a horror show in just a couple of months.

So now I find myself examining my childhood to see what it was my parents did that allowed me to come out somewhat normal.  I didn’t have a “perfect” childhood (who does?) but I had what I needed and I knew my parents loved & supported me.  Is it that simple?  Make sure your kid knows that you love and support them?  Make sure you give them what they need but not everything they want?  Getting ready to become a dad is scary enough without being reminded that any screw up you make could mess up the kid for the rest of their life.

In summation I am aware that there isn’t a formula or routine that one can follow in order to make sure they don’t screw up their child for life.  Or is there?     🙂

 

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The Daddy Chronicles: The Horrors Of Baby Registries

The Daddy Chronicles will follow my misadventures of learning how to be a father.  My wife is due on March 4th, the preparation is under way….

 

 

The baby registry sounds so simple,  you make a list of baby stuff you want & then it magically appears.  Not only that but you can create baby registries online.  So I had this grand vision of sitting on my butt in my pajamas, sleep-crust still blocking most of my peripheral vision, coffee in one hand, one eye on the registry, the other on my TV.  Oh how very wrong I was.

At first it was simple, the wife & I started up a baby registry on Amazon.  Then I was advised that we need to have a nice mix of items we want (i.e. the more expensive luxury items), things we need (apparently babies don’t know how to use the bathroom & need to be feed daily), and “throw-in items”.  Now throw-in items were explained to me as items that people will purchase because they’re cheap & cute.  OR are items that less financially-able individuals are able to purchase so they can get you something but aren’t put in a bind.  Already way more thought then I was planning on putting into this.

Then I was advised that we have to go to these ancient ruins known as “stores” to also create additional baby registries.  As not everyone shops online!?!  Imagine my surprise when I am told there are individuals who still do the majority of their shopping in these ancient relics.  I remember hearing about lost tribes in the amazon that are found & have no idea there are more technological advanced cultures out there.  So if you were to hand them a lighter they would think it was witchcraft.  As we walked through these brick & mortar stores I couldn’t help but wonder if I would get the same reaction if I showed them a laptop with Amazon.com on it.   Three stores later our registries are complete, I’m exhausted, and after avoiding old ladies pushing shopping carts all day am reminded as to why I don’t like people.

Yes I know these are the very definition of 1st-World problems.  As people in Africa are battling just to find food I am complaining about making a glorified wishlist.

Already though I am beginning to realize this whole “having a kid” thing might not be all fun & games  🙂

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